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[quote=Anonymous]My older brother is 47 years old and lives in my parents' converted garage.

He is highly educated but has not worked for years. He's got some form of delusional disorder where he thinks he's a businessman but he actually doesn't do anything. He has no means of supporting himself. Everything he has -- leased car, food, apartment with utilities, health insurance -- comes from my parents. They're not rich and won't leave him much as far as I know (I don't expect to get anything and if I did I'd put it in trust for him).

I've been worrying about what will happen when my parents die. They are 69 and 73 so it's not imminent, but he should outlive them. I can't afford to support him and I think he's too delusional to let me help him anyway. Every few months or so he asks me to help find him a lawyer for an apparently imaginary legal issue that varies in nature but is always about his money being tied up with bad, dishonest people.  I used to offer to pay his heating bills directly, buy him groceries, and help him sign up for government supports 
 but he only ever wanted some lawyer.

Today I asked my father point blank what he thought would happen to my brother and he was very callous about it. I really don't think he cares what happens.

So in short: brother too mentally ill to hold a job; won't inherit enough money for the next few decades of his life; will resist if I try to help him get assistance; and I don't have the money to support him.

I can see him ending up homeless.

What can be done? 
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