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[quote=Anonymous]We did. We had a really bad situation last year with horrible work schedules, loneliness, social isolation, and very poor communication, in a house with a dumpy interior that was really hard to maintain.

Rather than spending money on therapy, we decided to try to move some of the major pieces around, to shift the context and essentially do some experiments on our relationship. We cleared out a bunch of stuff from our house and tried to make it as cosy as possible.We hired additional housekeeping. Each of us  focused on individual health, working out. We went on weekend trips. The first couple were horrible, but over time, the time together started to have an effect, and we started to reconnect.

Once things started to ease for me personally, I decided to focus more on happiness and togetherness, instead of fear and focusing on the negative. I tried to start injecting more positivity into my approach to my husband, even though I didn't really feel it.

It also didn't hurt that our kids shifted to more of a full time school program.

Anyway, about a year later, it has paid huge dividends. We are still going to pursue therapy down the road, but the difference of addressing some of the superficial context has been tremendous. We have reconnected as a couple, and while we still have tons of work to do as a couple, we have a sense of togetherness instead of the bleak feeling of what you describe.  I feel like what I have said sounds really superficial, but I do believe sometimes little things contribute a lot of invisible stress. [/quote]

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