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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My H felt the same way.

I was sick of needing him to feel like I want him. It is very unattractive and needy and insecure.

Why do I need to put on a show to prove to you I want you.

Funny story, My H best friend is divorced. He was on a date and when they got home, he actually was stupid enough to say to his hot 28 yo date, show me you want me...

she said, "the f'... want you...? no wonder your needy ass is divorced, I am 28, I am naked, you need more than that... dang!" she got dressed and left.

My H acts less needy now, thank you 28 yo woman I have never met.

You are creating an expectation in your head that is unnecessary and it is causing you to be bitter. YOU are creating this situation and you are being passive aggressive about.

Step 1: I just want sex.
Step 2: I want you to prove you want it too.
Step 3: Now I need you to act sexy and prove you want it.
Step 4: Your wife finds somebody that just wants sex. [/quote]

My husband is like this.  He complains that we never have sex, but NEVER initiates.  He needs to "feel wanted," which in practice means that I'm supposed to initiate all the time.  I'll initiate three or four times in a row, and then there is no reciprocation.  If I'm not giving overt signals that I want to have sex, it never happens.  He doesn't make any effort to try to get things started or get in the mood.  If I'm not in the mood to begin with, nothing happens.  It's not fair to put all the onus on me to keep our sex life going.  It turns it into one more chore I'm supposed to take care of, and there is nothing sexy about it.  [/quote]

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