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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My bf and I got into a huge fight last night due to our introvert-extrovert differences. I am slightly more extroverted than he is and although I need alone time to recharge after a social activity, I still need more interaction with people. After a long day at work, I want to come home, get a glass of wine and vent/chat with my bf. He is my safe place after a day out in the world.

After a long day of work, my bf gets moody and grumpy and just drained. He gives one word responses, is tired and usually just wants no interaction with me. He'd much rather play a video game or read a book.

I of course don't take this too well. As someone who loves me, I expect him to relish the fact that he gets to see me at the end of the day and he should not want to wait to hang out with me and talk to me and tell me about his day.

Last night, he was grumpy and quiet in the car, so I left him alone and we drove pretty much quietly after work. Once home, I had to get a job application out, so I was on the laptop and he got himself a glass of wine and a book and sat next to me and started reading. He'd rub my feet and read and I'd type away. After I got done, I went and showered and moisturized myself and looked over at him and he was still absorbed in his book.

I feel hurt that even though I was done with my task and I was free now, he still just wanted to read his book. He asked me how I was doing, I said I was okay. I then turn on netflix and get quiet and "pouty". He asks me whats wrong. I say its nothing. He asks again, I tell him that I felt hurt that he wanted to read his book instead of spend time with me since I was not going to be there tomorrow and the day after.

He flipped out! And started going off a rant about how it is SOOOO unfair that I am begrudging him a book! I said I don't care if he reads his book and that I'm hurt he is doing it now when he could do it tomorrow or the day after when I'm not around. We go back and forth. He starts accusing me of not giving him any space to do anything except hang out with me and do stuff I want. I'm hurt I even  have to ask him to spend time with me. He was yelling and saying all sorts of unflattering things about how I am so unfair and so mean!

I then tried to sleep on the couch and cried until 2am. After which he came to get me and I finally went  to bed.

We were still arguing about it this morning. I am exhausted and can't focus on work. I feel like I have been through a war being attacked and criticized all night.
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OP here. He also went on a rant about how I don't appreciate him and all he does for me and if I did I would not begrudge him a book and some alone time to relax after a long day.

This is so stupid because I tell him I love him and appreciate him all the time! :shock: [/quote]

PP here. You may say those things, but it sounds like you really just want him to do exactly what you want, pay attention to you, operate on your time frame, "relish the fact that he gets to see you." Then when he does that, in the form of "asking you how you're doing" you get pouty and passive aggressive. I would've yelled at you too.[/quote]

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