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[quote=Anonymous]OP, my mom is exactly like yours.  She is both a hoarder* and someone who wants me to have all the old baby stuff she saved from my childhood.  I let her keep baby stuff at my house for a few months and maybe take pictures of DD in/with it, but then I give it back to her and say DD can't use it or outgrew it or whatever.  This works particularly well with handmade baby clothes because I just say, honestly, that I don't want DD to ruin them.

*I agree with PP that keeping a lot of baby stuff does not by itself make someone a hoarder.  But an inability to let go of possessions, and an inappropriate idea of their value, is characteristic.  My parents didn't hoard newspapers they hoarded furniture.  At one point in my teens I counted 46 dining chairs in our two-bedroom house, most in various states of disrepair and awaiting refurbishing that would never happen.  They could't bear to donate them because they were so "valuable."  My mom brings that dysfunction to me when she tries to fill my house with things she can't let go of: giving stuff to me is a way to get it out of her house, and assign value to it, without actually letting it out of her life.[/quote]

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