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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP - How does your mother know what your kids write about in school projects?[/quote] This.  She isn't going to know if you don't tell her. Are you being passive aggressive and creating this issue?[/quote]

OP here. Thanks for the responses.

We had a back to school night, and I took photos of a bunch of school projects, including one about families that was thrown into the mix of photos.

As for the unhealthy family dynamics, yes, there is definitely that. My mother has narcissistic tendencies, and I do wonder if I am sometimes shielding my children from her because I don't want them to be exposed to her self-absorbtion. From the time I was very young (like late elementary school), she would use me as her sounding board for questions like whether or not she should divorce my father (!), compete with me when I was older (buying things that mentioned to her that I liked for herself), and generally putting a ton of pressure on me during inappropriate times (tell me about my father's abusive behavior towards her during college final exams, just when I was about to come home). I think that because I was the oldest daughter, she felt that she could use me in this way, even though it was totally inappropriate.

And to answer another PP's question, my parents did not attend sporting events because they did not encourage me to participate. They did, however, pay for piano lessons and attended my annual recitals.

Online shrinks, have a field day.... :)[/quote]

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