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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In the past 5 years I have really begun to set boundaries with my mom. First it was when DH and I were getting married and she tried t control everything an later it became when we started a family. ID say this past year has been the best in terms of setting and keeping boundaries.  My mom, to her credit, has also been working on her issues.

The reasoning for not setting limits was that the fall out was worse. My mom is the queen of guilt tripping and overreaction.  When I would try to set boundaries, it would cause an inevitable meltdown with awful things being said. I learned to just let her have her way to avoid this.  It seems easy to just say "well set a boundary" but it can be really difficult to do when you're afraid of the fallout [/quote]

I can see that. But at the same time, I really believe in letting some eggs break. What's the worst someone can do...get mad? Say hurtful things? Not visit anymore? That's fine. Those are THEIR choices, and it's nothing to do with me. [/quote]

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