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[quote=Anonymous]Too general a question to be of much use but here's some good advice.

I married a foreigner and so did my best friend.  We realized in retrospect that there were things that he did, that his family did, that his mom did that we were both way too generous in excusing because of the whole foreign factor.

In other words, his mother would say something unconscionably cruel and we would say, "Oh, this must be a translation problem.  She couldn't possibly have meant that.  I'm probably just misunderstanding because she's foreign."

Same with the guy from time to time -- Something like insisting on everything being returned to exactly the same place that it came from in the kitchen, and the girlfriend thinking it must be 'some foreign thing' when it's really OCD.

Don't overlook things -- his fascist politics;  his incredibly cheapness and lack of generosity; his mom's rigidly controlling ways -- or even worse, romanticize them, because, you know, he's foreign.  Don't assume that as he acclimates to life in the US, he will change.

Basically, don't overlook piggy things that you wouldn't accept in another relationship because the guy's foreign, or chalk everything up to foreignness.  Look out for the same signs and warning signals that you would look out for in a regular relationship and treat them the same way.
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