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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm sorry, it can be really hard.  Most people won't follow up for a few months, since that's how long it takes to get a few more tries in.  As you know, TTC involves LOTS of waiting.  There's not much people can do in the mean time except say they are sorry it's been hard.  That can really be helpful, but I wouldn't expect too much from people who haven't gone through it.  It's a tricky thing to understand from the outside.

Try to plan something fun for yourself around the time you get your period.  After awhile of TTC, I was really limiting my drinking, but if I was on my period, all bets were off.  I'd usually round up friends for a last-minute happy hour, or go out to a nice long boozy dinner.  All things that are impossible to do with a baby at home.  It always helped me see how full my life was, even though I didn't have a baby.

It took me 2.5 years (and one miscarriage) to have my DD.  I cried a lot of tears along the way.  I remember so vividly that fear that I'd never get to have a baby.  It was a really hard time.  Don't discount your grief.  Each month you need to mourn a little.  You don't want to wallow or descend into bitterness, but be gentle and patient and kind with yourself.  Feel the bad feelings, cry them out, and then dust yourself off and get ready to try again.  It's the only way, honestly.

I hope it happens for you soon OP.  Hang in there. [/quote]

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