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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Next weekend is the annual beach trip/reunion with my husband's family. It's generally fun and enjoyable, with lots of kids around.

But at night, the booze comes out, and so does the gossip about practically everyone who didn't attend that year (or even those who went to bed already). Last year, for example, they talked about a cousin whose daughter is in gymnastics, speculating how much that costs. They slammed the mother (the in-law) for being a SAHM who promotes an expensive activity.

I always stay silent, even when they ask what I think. I wish I hadn't about that. I like that cousin and his family a lot.

I'm almost dreading this year. Should I speak up?[/quote]

How is it "generally fun and enjoyable" all day long if you know that the bashing is coming up every night? That would put me on edge the whole time. Don't let the idea of "they're boozed up" give these people a pass on being backstabbers. That is what they are, after all. Don't you think that, by day and sober, they'd do the same thing if their targets weren't around, or the kids weren't there to soak up the gossip and report it back to moms and dads?

OP, you already said you are dreading this year, and you now wish you'd spoken up for that one cousin, etc. Read the red flags you, yourself, are putting up here. You don't like this behavior and don't like how it makes YOU appear; because you know that silence is, to them, your tacit agreement with whatever they say. This year, either don't go, or go and speak up if you stay in the room, or go and leave the room promptly when the booze and bitching session begins each night. [/quote]

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