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[quote=Anonymous]I am a child of divorce. I am also divorced and remarried (as is my ex). I never called my parents' new partners any variation on mom/dad. I was 12 when my parents split up, and none of those people were ever parental figures to me. My sister, who was 4, definitely considers my mom's husband to be "stepdad" and actually has a more meaningful relationship with him than she does with our biodad. I think he's a great guy, but he's more of a friend than a parent to me and that's how it's always been.

My daughter was very proud of having stepparents. I remarried first, and she has called my DH by his first name, "Stepdaddy" and very occasionally "Daddy." The latter has only occurred when she's been sick or injured and he's been there. It's a comfort thing. She refers to my ex's wife as by her first name or as her stepmom. I don't know what she calls her to her face as we do not have a good relationship and avoid being in the same space as much as possible.

I was not thrilled by the stepmom moniker at first, partially because ex's relationship with Stepmom moved very quickly. I was also not sure whether it was DD looking for some way to indicate her positive feelings about Stepmom or whether Stepmom was asking to be called this. Based on observing DD's relationship with my husband evolve, I suspect that it was more the former. I have learned to set aside my personal feelings about Stepmom and focus on DD's feelings, which are overwhelmingly positive. It's what grown ups do.[/quote]

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