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[quote=Anonymous]What if what your sister wants to share is that there's a child molester in the family? Are you going tell her you're not interested in hearing it?

You know her and her patterns better than any of us, but I would go the lunch and just be clear that you want to support her and you're here for her, but you don't intend to take sides, nor do you feel she owes you an explanation. If she still wants to unload, then okay - she can say what she wants. It's not going to effect your relationship with the other members of your family (baring molestation, though I wouldn't name the exemption given what you've shared). I've had relatives insist on telling me their side of the story in a battle I made sure not to be a part of. They wanted to be seen as sympathetic in my eyes - I tried to make it clear no explanation was necessary, or even wanted, that I don't consider their beef with others to be beef with me, but ultimately they still wanted to share their side of the story with a loved one. So I listened. It wasn't the whole truth, but okay, now I know what everyone thought they were doing and why. It's still none of my business, but I have full vision from all perspectives. [/quote]

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