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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't know whether it's control issues or dependency issues, or both, but I need to set limits with my mother.

It's impossible to do favors or give gifts to her.  Every favor or gift spirals out of control into an endless list of demands.  For example, she wanted us to provide multiple photos of our family.  I set up on Photobucket for her to have all the photos.  Now she wants me to take her through how to copy the photos to her ipad, how to make a screensaver, and other demands.  She's technologically incompetent.  Basically she wants me to teach her how to use an ipad, and how to access the internet effectively, which she's incapable of. [b] Everything is phrased "Now I need you to..."  Is it her or is it me?[/b]

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1. Just because someone needs something from you, it doesn't mean you have to provide it.  This goes for your mom too.  It's ok to say no to her.

2. Yes, you are interpreting her request "I need you to" as a way to control you.  She can't control you.  Only you control you.  It's also very likely that she uses this same phrase with other people all the time. So it's not that she wants something from you specifically as much as this is just the way she phrases things in general.

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