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[quote=Anonymous][b][quote=Anonymous]Let her fail. It's better to now than let her do so later in college or after. She can still get her act together before college. [/quote][/b]

Obviously, it depends on the child, but for some children, like my Aspie daughter, she simply cannot write.  There are so many swirling thoughts in her head that she cannot get them all in a line and write a college-level paper from opening argument, supporting documentation, thesis, etc.  To let her fail at the high school level would have just continued to crush her altready damaged sense of self-confidence.  We went with tutors and and sn  IEP throughout high school.  That allowed her to learn, turn in work on time, and still graduate with A-s, Bs from high school.  Allowing her to "fail" along the way would have just resulted in more self-hatred.  Some people just cannot do certain things.  We've learned more about her in college - namely that organizing and writing papers is the most difficult thing for her to do.  It's not laziness, lack of planning, or low I.Q.  In fact, it's the opposite.  In college, we are using a coach who meets with her 3 x a week to try to keep her work in order and keep her focused on what she should be doing and when.  These aren't "normal" kids who can "learn" from a failure to do better next time.  DD just doesn't have the tools to organize herself to even start on a paper, much less do the follow through.  [/quote]

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