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[quote=Anonymous]Is this a thing? How would we even find out how/who to write?

He's been drinking for 20 yrs but kept it mostly hidden from us; once he was away at school, he came home for visits between semesters and work so we never knew. He's gotten busted for driving drunk for the third time now (thought it was the second) and had his licence taken away for 90 days because he wouldn't blow (he's a  43 yr old lawyer; knows how to game the system and not blow). He isn't married, no kids, just an enabling, sweet girlfriend who 'loves him so much she wants to help him and not lose him'. I'm sure he's been hell on her (not physical but he can be a jerk, circular reasoning, arguments about why he doesn't have a problem, etc).

I suggested to my remaining family (dad, uncle, sister and me) that we write an open letter to the judge/court system saying 'we need help/throw the book at him/mandate he does inpatient rehab/don't give his licence back/don't let him plea this down' and let the judge know that he has been charged 3 times over about 20 years in different states/countries/jurisdictions and doesn't want help, so can we just force it and see if it sticks? I don't even know if the judge has the power.

He was busted at work recently last month for smelling like alcohol and having rather circuitous speech and referred to have an MD/addictive medicine expert assessment and though he was worried, apparently not worried enough. He is unable/unwilling to help himself. Apparently the MD's finding was that he was not alcohol dependent and didn't need to do any rehab. This was based on his charming manipulations and how he chose to fill out the questionnaire. He's a chubbier Jude Law type and turns on the charm with the ladies.

This happened in the same jurisdiction as this case so I'm terrified this opportunity to help him is the only one we've got: http://globalnews.ca/news/1915239/woman-with-19-prior-drunk-driving-prohibitions-receives-no-jail-time-at-latest-sentencing/ 
No known mental illness/nothing wrong with his life/no trauma we know of- and we've asked intensively because no one else in the family can understand where this is coming from. We feel helpless in this and clueless. Not equipped at all, so I guess we kind of feel like handing him over so some 'authority' to mandate he get fixed.

Does/can this even work this way? [/quote]

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