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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi -- this will probably not be a constructive post -- I just need to vent and externalize so I don't give myself an ulcer! 17 yo dd is a senior in HS -- gifted in some areas but with slow processing and working memory deficits.

She was assigned two essays to write over the weekend that had to be turned in today. She kept assuring me over the weekend that she was on top of her work, etc, etc but then ended up staying up until 4 n the morning to write the essays and one of them didn't even address the question being asked. I'm so frustrated -- she's so on top of stuff she's interested in but stuff that's less interested/harder (writing) gets short shrift and I feel like she was less than honest with me about her progress on her work.

She's worked with tutors but she's so bright she completely snows them in to thinking she's on top of stuff. With me, she's argumentative and less than honest. I'm so tempted to just step back and let her fail but she does need support and the consequences of failure are huge at this point in her life.

It kills me because she is so smart but can't seem to get out of her own way and closing off opportunities. I've said this to her but she's very sensitive and hearing that is just devastating to her.

[b]She has a therapist, psychiatrist and ADHD coach she works with.

I don't know if there's even a question in there![/quote][/b]

OP - you are fortunate to have a coach (we didn't).  Shouldn't this be the coach's job?  To make sure she is current?.  Also, I loved the "are you on top of it" remark.  My Aspie is so literal that if we told DC to "hop into the car" DC would hop into the car.

Writing has always been difficult for my Aspie.  And it got much worse when DC got to college and all the supports were removed.  It's taken DC about two years to adjust and learn that jr has to keep a calendar, get out of bed, plan ahead; set aside time each day for papers, etc.  He actually didn't know what a "paper" was, either, until I explained it to him.  Best of luck, but try to get the coach engaged![/quote]

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