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I feel your pain, OP.

I have inatttentive ADHD and was like this too in high school - and closed the best doors for myself, despite having a gifted IQ. One thing I remember is that I was so extremely mentally short-sighted and immature, it was scary (in hindsight). I just couldn't understand the consequences of my actions, in terms of career and prospects. My parents had been raised in completely different environments, and had no clue what to say or do, and of course the diagnosis did exist back then.

Research shows that normal teen brains can't understand consequences well or see very far ahead - and it's much much worse for ADHD brains. Therefore I believe what may help is continued parental support and intervention with repeated explanations on why this is important. Give concrete examples, of people she knows. Insist on staying involved and tell her why. Be direct and do not fear her sensitivity.

I know it's considered horrific to be a helicopter parent, but failure at this point will not teach her a lesson. My failure in high school didn't teach me a thing! Perhaps the failure lesson works on brains without ADHD. I only started thinking more clearly and stay organized in my late twenties, and then understood what I had been doing wrong in high school. Such is the delay of maturation of the ADHD brain.

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