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[quote=Anonymous]I struggle with (usually relatively mild) anxiety/depression.  I have never taken anti-depressants, which I may consider.  My life is really great in many ways - wonderful children, kind spouse, career/economic success, many friends, great schools and neighborhood for our children.  Our children do seem to be happy and thriving, thank goodness.  Most of the time I'm ok, but when I get in a funk, I can feel pretty dark - I'm in one now following a recent visit with my mother.

My parents divorced when I was young.  My father had siblings commit suicide and I believe he has a mental illness of some sort.  His behavior toward me reached a point where, as an adult, I needed to establish a boundary of no relationship.  We have attempted to reconnect a couple of times but then things deteriorated and I concluded that I didn't want to expose my children to his behavior.

My mother isn't healthy and is prone to being sharply critical of me - my spouse says emotionally abusive - especially when she is feeling pain.  Lately, that has been quite frequent.  We still do have a relationship but it is quite difficult and in recent years I have had to establish a lot of boundaries there too.

My spouse is a wonderful person but also struggles with anxiety and ADHD as well.  We rarely have sex.  i'm not sure if spouse's low libido is physical or emotional.  I do not have my radar up for an affair.   Spouse resists any kind of therapy.

I'm tired. I have tried therapy in the past, for about 6 months but didn't really feel like I was learning many strategies or noticing any "improvement".  I guess this is a dumb question, but for those of you who have had success with therapy, how do you know if it is working or the right fit?  I'm not sure if I didn't give the original therapist enough time or if I need to find someone else.

On an intellectual level I know that I am a good person.  On an emotional level, when I am in a funk I get in that dark place where I feel unlovable, etc.  Since I am there now, I do think I probably need to figure out a plan to start/reinstate therapy.

Thanks for your suggestions. [/quote]

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