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OP here.  A few things to add.

2. Our daughter is actually very calm, well behaved.  She's not even a year old yet.
3. Just to further clarify, the ONLY family local my in-laws and my parents.  Everyone else, not local.  My family, overall, is not very close and many will agree and say my parents are to blame.  I have an older sister, she has a similar issue and doesn't care for my parents much but tolerates them.  
4. It's well known that my wife does not like them and that they do not like my wife, no secret.

On the early comment that I should have thicker skin and not worry about what people say. I should probably ellaborate that I'm not worried about what they say an opinions, it's the fall out.  For example, if I don't call my parents for 2 months (and they don't call me), my parents will tell my sister that I haven't contacted them and I'm keeping them from seeing their granddaughter.  My sister will then contact me and for whatever reason, be on their side saying that I should make a better effort in trying to have my parents in my granddaughters life and if I'm not interested in doing that, that maybe I should see my nephews (her children) either.

Point is - it's a very childish "game" and it almost seems like no matter what, I'm on the losing end of the stick and somebody will suffer, which while I don't care if that somebody is me - I just feel like it will always be one of the children in the situation.

Hopefully that makes sense.  It's quite complicated and really hard to lay everything out for a complete analysis in writing without missing other key points/events/actions.[/quote]

12:02 here.

We all understand that situations like yours are complex, have built up over time, and that you're not going to divulge all your life details on this site. However my advice to you hasn't changed. You should contact your parents more than once every two months, and if you don't, your sister is quite reasonable in taking their side. Your parents aren't abusive, they're not drug addicts or schizophrenic, are they? They're merely difficult and strange. It's not *that* bad, OP, and you can call them every week or so. Keep it brief and upbeat. 
I have come close to cutting my own parents off, after some really cruel things they did and said. I finally decided not to, and call them twice a week on average, just like before. It keeps the demons at bay.

Honestly, you sound young, OP. I'm 35 and have had plenty of time to mull over my parents' weirdness, and how to respond to it. Perhaps you need a little time too.

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