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[quote=Anonymous] Just wondering if anyone else has been through this or has any thoughts...

I've been good friends with Emma (pseudonym) for 15 years. We both have children around the same age (I have one and she has two) but she's a SAHM and I have to work full-time (I'm not happy about it and would rather be a SAHM for a few years but that's not my reality). You would think that having children would bring us closer together but it's been the opposite. As the years have gone by her worldview has shrank and she seems to have trouble talking about anything besides her kids. I like talking about my son too but there are many other topics I enjoy talking about. We used to have a lot of fun together in the pre-kid days but as the years have gone by we have less and less in common.

The last time we met she talked at length about how her daughter's teacher doesn't remind the kids to bring their lunch boxes home with them-this apparently happened three days in a row. She got angry and wrote the teacher an e-mail about it and did not like the response-yada, yada, yada. She talked about this for 10-15 minutes. Is it just me or is she making a big deal out of something trivial? Her daughter loves the teacher and the teacher has a good reputation-so she's a little disorganized-no one's perfect.  I just don't get that upset about those sorts of things. She's also obsessed with child molesters/pedophiles and does not like the fact that there's a male aide working in her daughter's classroom (the guy isn't doing anything objectionable-she just doesn't like that he's male and working with young kids). Additionally, she's always going on about how hard it is to be a SAHM and how she thinks it's harder staying at home with a child than working. Honestly, I want to tell her to STFU sometimes-I would quit my job in a heartbeat if I could.

I'm a quiet, introverted person and don't have a ton of friends. At this point in my life I'm so busy with work, taking care of my son, etc. that I don't have time to go out and actively try to make new friends. I know that as the years pass things will settle down and I'll have more time in my life for friendship-I don't want that time to arrive and realize that I have very few friends left. On the other hand, I don't really enjoy the time I spend with Emma. I really miss how she used to be. I don't want to blow off the friendship but I also feel like we have less and less in common.

Any thoughts? 
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