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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know kids shouldn't win at everything and that winning isn't even the point, but damn I just wish that one time my 11 year old DS would have the feeling of success that comes with making a sports team, school leadership position, etc.  He's not athletic, but is a decent student who enjoys playing instruments, competing in lego competitions.  He desperately wants to find his place and in 11 years has never ended up on top.  He keeps putting himself out there (and we make sure that his goals aren't unrealistic) and comes up empty, then feels worse about himself and inevitably behaves terribly for a bit because he doesn't know how to express his emotions.  DW and I always tell him how proud we are that he tries, but just once I wish it would pay off for him.  Not really seeking any advice, but just crossing my fingers that at some point he will see the fruits of his labor.[/quote]

An individual sport like cross country might be good for him.  The key to CC is improving your own time and working hard.  My kid's junior high has an open cross country team. All the kids who go out make the team. The kids who letter are the kids who reach a certain level of improvement.  If he went out for CC, he could also do some running training in the off season.  A 10k with finisher' medals might be perfect for him. Finishing is an accomplishment and he can compete against his own times.

Karate might also be great for him. Progression is based on work and self-discipline, but every kid can do it.  He will succeed in a karate class, if he works at it. [/quote]

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