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[quote=Anonymous] Your feelings are probably a result of this endless "reward culture" that we live in. People get awards for any and everything, so naturally the ones who don't feel left out. To be more specific to your complaint, my child is motor-challenged and introverted. We understood early on that team sports and school leadership stuff were not his thing. He does dance and choir, in which there are absolutely no award systems built in, but in which there is much team spirit! Orchestra would fill the same niche. He also read adult books starting in first grade, and guess what - there are no public rewards for being an advanced reader either! Steer him towards activities that are not publicly rewarded, and he won't feel so left out. Your child is amazing, OP. He doesn't need futile external validation, but he will understand this only if YOU understand this. The most meaningful activities are their own rewards. [/quote]
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