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[quote=Anonymous]My MIL is a paranoid schizophrenic who has, once again, gone off her meds.  In the past, when it has gotten very bad, she has done some dangerous things (not to other, but property, etc).

This time around she showed up in our city from out of state. No warning.  No idea where she is/was staying.  She turned her phone off.  H was willing to meet with her but only if she was willing to go to a doctor.  She was verbally abuse and hung up the phone.  We have not heard from her since.  We have, repeatedly, tried to involve the police, but they have not yet deemed her a threat to herself or others.

H and I have dealt with this for years so while stressful, it is also kind of par for the course.  But the kids are older now and as such are, at times, home alone.  Given her recent trip up here, where she randomly showed up at both brothers' houses unexpectedly, and the fact that we do not currently know where she is, we had to address this issue with our kids. We were very gentle and did not offer a lot of details, but simply told them if Grandma shows up at a time when we aren't home, do not let her inside and call us.  We told them she isn't thinking clearly right now and it is best if adult talk to her.  They seemed to handle it well in that conversation and follow up conversations.

So last night my daughter had a break down. It turns out she is terrified of her grandmother showing up.  My heart is seriously broken over this - I want her to feel safe in her own home. I told her that we think her grandmother left the city (which is true) and that the chances of her showing up at our home are very, very slim (H told her to stay far away from us and threatened to call the cops if she came near our house).

My daughter is past the age where never leaving her home alone is an option.  For the time being we will minimize it but I need to figure out how to make her feel safe in her home again.  [/quote]

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