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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, what is he at risk of? Here are the facts from your post:

1. He's in the Blair STEM magnet or at RM IB.
2. He doesn't play sports.
3. He interacts more with friends on line than in real life.
4. His grades at the Blair STEM magnet or RM IB are average, his test scores are excellent.
5. He has tried marijuana.
6. He broke up with his long-distance girlfriend.
7. He is not as focused on his college applications as you want him to be.
8. You and your husband fight about the college applications with him.

What, specifically, are you worried about?[/quote]

I am frankly not worried about DS's grade. I was explaining the background that he used to have friends in school who have better GPA than he has and he feel out of place in their company. So, he has befriended many online friends (who he has not met in person). For example, he is one of the NMSF, which is a great thing for any HS kid. But for DS, it is giving him an impostor syndrome. He does not want to fill out the NMF application because he feels he would be rejected. He is unhappy being a NMSF :( I am worried that he is very depressed.

About the issue with drug, I would probably be fine if I knew he tried this and it was just an event...but he thinks it is okay to try other drugs and has developed the belief that the reaction to drug abuse in the society is overreaction. So, I am worried that he would try other drugs and possibly get into health and/or legal trouble now or as soon as he is in college.

He is not focused on college application, yes that bothers me, but that has not given me sleepless nights yet.

The possibility of depression and self-esteem issue resulting in drug abuse in the senior year or in college is scaring the hell out of me.
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Honestly, he just sounds like he is freaking about the transition from high school to college a little bit. He could benefit from seeing a therapist who specializes in CBT to talk about his plans and what he wants to do and what will help him do that.

I'd put him in therapy with those goals ASAP.  [/quote]

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