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OP - You and DH might benefit from Family Counseling now because you both can't be piling your angst about what your son's future may or nay not look like according to your expected path for his life and your own.  At the same time you would also be sharing the family issues and able to seek guidance from an experienced therapist on what to focus on and what to let go and how to support your son in helping him find the professional help he may need.  [b]It is not unusual  at all for a mental health condition to surface in late teens or 20s for high performing student, and often the trigger is not so much the parents but the fear of the unknown and a perceived or real lack of coping skills in considering it. And this reality may or may not even be evident to your son.

You may need to perhaps reframe your worry about having "A son who is depressed and with low self-esteem having to see a psychiatrist for official diagnosis and medication management along with seeing a psychologist (or similarly trained therapist) for counseling" into a positive statement because a health issue is in need of identification and perhaps rigorous treatment.  How is it different than if you found your son had cancer and needed immediate treatment? And I do understand this is perhaps something that you worry about how it may possibly l appear to others if the word gets out or to a college in the future.  Well all I can say is that it is much better to get the mental health issue identified and the process of getting things figured out and helping your son realize his outlook and daily life can improve and understand why with possibly the appropriate medication and therapy, then to suddenly get a crisis call from a college setting.  [b]Do you really want DS to reach a crisis point next fall on a college campus needlessly.  We went through this 20 years ago with our oldest daughter, and it was much harder than it would have been had we identified the issues while a senior in high school.[/b]  I have shared on other threads that it took a decade for things to really settle down. So just save yourself and your son needless suffering by getting started.  And it may just mean that someone you or DH may need to take some time away from the full-time job to get a handle on things.[/quote]

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