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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yeah I think it's really rude, especially if I was noticeably hungry.

Would be a deal breaker for me, for sure. [/quote]

My friend is not going on a second date with this guy. My friend's co-worker is the one who introduced them. The guy saw my friend and thought she was really pretty. My friend didn't really want to go but thought it could be fun. She is also new to the dating scene. I told her she should just have ordered some appetizers and paid for it if he did not pick up the tab.[/quote]

[b]I will never understand men who have big crushes on women and then they aren't willing to put in the work to get them?  And treat them like an afterthought, even though THEY WERE THE ONES WHO WANTED THE DATE.[/b]

It's crazy.

He sounds like he has a lot to work on and your friend is smart to avoid him.[/quote]

This. I had a date like that years ago.  The guy was a friend of a friend and we had all met on a group outing.  He kept asking me for a date and at the time I was working long hours not getting home until 10 at night and working weekends.  Finally, in my limited free time I agreed to go to the movies with him. I met him there and we get to the counter and he said he was short of money and had me pay for my own ticket, used a student ID (although no longer a student) for his ticket. He did offer to split popcorn but I said, that's okay.  Then proceeded to hold both my hands at the movie and try to kiss me goodnight when he walked me to my car. That was the first and last date with that guy.

So back to the OP's question drinks on the first date are fine ...you want to keep it low key so there isn't a lot of pressure etc.  While I do hope the guy pays (assuming he did the inviting) on the first date, I would actuallly prefer if it was a low cost meet up so I don't feel bad if there is zero chemistry IRL.  Depending on the situation, 7:30pm may have been too early for just drinks.  Probably 8 or 8:30 with clearly enough time to eat dinner and then meet out would have been better. It's like when you plan a play date or a kids birthday party if you don't want to provide a meal you make a time where it is reasonable to assume a meal won't be provided like meeting at 1:30 or 2:00pm.  You never want to make plans during a mealtime and not provide food or a way for people to politely be able to eat even if you aren't eating.  People get cranky when they are hungry and annoyed when you plan something during a mealtime and they are stuck until the event/meeting is over to get food.[/quote]

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