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[quote=Anonymous]Lower libido wife here -- really sorry you're in this situation, OP.  It is tough, all the way around, and there may be no way to express what you want to express without hurting your wife -- if she loves you, she's likely already upset that she's not giving you what you need, and you'll only be confirming for her that she's not good enough.  As the lower libido spouse, I found it exhausting just thinking about trying to keep up with DH, let alone actually trying to keep up with him, and I was sad/frustrated about that all the time.  So when he pointed out his unhappiness, it often only compounded my own.

That doesn't mean you shouldn't keep trying, just at some point know that whatever you say aside from -- I'm truly totally happy with 1-2 times a month! -- is probably not going to go over well, at least initially.  My DH and I have had a number of difficult conversations over the past few years since having kids, and have both had to make adjustments and compromises to get to a place where we're happy most of the time.  We're never going to have as much sex as he wants to have, but we have a lot more of it a lot more regularly than we ever used to (3x week).  My advice is to keep talking to your wife, and really try to figure out what the roadblock is in terms of her being an active/willing participant on those days she's just there for you.  On some level, she has to know that laying there like she's doing you a favor by providing an orifice is not satisfying for you, and is not really an act of love and commitment on her part.[/quote]

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