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[quote=Anonymous]School just started and this is K so if you're in FCPS or MCPS this child has been in school for what two weeks? If this child wasn't in pre-K it's not really that unusual for there to be an adjustment period. I was actually pretty surprised a few years ago when I volunteered and saw that this type of thing was happening in our DC's K classroom at the beginning of the school year. There were multiple kids throwing themselves on the ground and crying, crumpling up papers and breaking crayons, being physical with other kids. My DC was in pre-K and most of the kids who did pre-K adjusted more easily than those who weren't used to the routine. We are in what is considered to be a very good school by the way.

By middle of the year things had calmed down and everyone was adjusted and things were great. The more disruptive kids weren't disruptive anymore and friends with everyone.

I agree with PP that you may be overreacting. Stuff being smashed? Is he really smashing stuff or just rough with the class materials? Attacking other kids? Is he reacting to other kids being physical or teasing him or is he actually out of the blue attacking them? "Screaming"? Does he has volume control issues or is he really screaming? If the situation is that dire you can be sure the child has some sort of special needs and you should be understanding.

No one wants your child to be in an environment where he does not feel safe but I can assure you that my child was also reporting all the things all the classmates did at the beginning of K because there is such a huge emphasis on behavior and because it is so public. So I know which kids got in trouble for what but which kids were misbehaving but DC never ever called any of them "bad." Where is this language coming from? Is it the teacher or do you use this language at home?

[quote=Anonymous]DC has been coming home every day talking about "the bad" kid in class - what that kid did each day that was disruptive, how many "chance" that kid got, and how much DC doesn't like school because of "the bad" kid.  (The disruptive behavior ranges from attacking other kids to screaming to smashing things etc.)

So, I'm very sympathetic that it seems like this kid clearly needs behavioral intervention support (or whatever is the best fit for the needs) and hasn't received it (yet?) (kindergarten).  I'm hoping the teacher/school/parents are on this & suspect that's the case -- but

1) what is the best way to talk to my DC about it - I've been trying "XX isn't *bad*, XX is trying to learn how to behave when angry/emotional/etc or learn how to follow the rules" -- (DC and sibling both responded "no XX is just bad!" what works best here?

2) don't want DC to be an disruptive environment or be upset daily by this type of behavior vs. feeling in a safe, secure, respectful environment (to use Arne Duncan's vernacular).  I think it's probably not probably as disruptive as DC is conveying but it's clear there's an issue (and other parents have raised it too).  I was thinking of raising it by raising question 1 with teacher as a way of broaching it, but also don't have parent/teacher conferences/easy opportunity to discuss it until November.[/quote][/quote]

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