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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DC has been invited to several this fall. I have many questions about attendance and gift etiquette that DCUM can help with.

1) when the whole class is invited, do most kids go?
2) will the host be offended if the RSVP is no?
3) DC has several sports conflicts. Is it okay to skip the servings and just attend the evening party?
4) for someone DC just met for the first time, what is an appropriate gift?
5) the invite does not list an end time. How long do they usually last? Could DC sneak out after 1-2 hours to attend a game?
6) what is the appropriate attire for the service?
7) do you just out the cash in a card or something else?
8) is Boggle a good gift? :)
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You will likely get a lot of different opinions!

1) no way to say
2) no
3) I say no. The service is the real event. It would be similar to skipping a wedding and attending the reception. Unless it's for a truly unique conflict, it will come across as skipping the "boring" part and will seem disrespectful of the occasion.
4) birthday party level gift. Cash is traditional. Cash in multiples of $18 is a Jewish superstition based tradition that would almost seem mandatory if you read this board too much!
5) service times vary accross denominations. Asking the host is fine. Coming in late is also fine. In many denominations, two hours is the entire length of the service anyhow!
6) button down shirt and khakis is fine. For girls, modest dress (sleeves and not crazy short)
7) yes, cash can go in a card. 
8) boggle is a fine gift if the bar mitzvah kid likes that sort of thing. Cash and a separate gift are not neccesary. [/quote]

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