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[quote=Anonymous]Bright, outgoing DS has been at school for about two weeks and it doesn't sound like things are going that well. He was a BMOC in high school and this appears to be a very rough transition for him. He doesn't have much in common with the kids immediately around him in his dorm (I met them at drop off and knew right away it would be a poor fit), hasn't joined any groups or teams, and seems to be spending a lot of time alone. He is communicating sporadically (not at all unusual) but said today via text that he had experienced a panic attack this afternoon. I was glad that he told me, tried to let him know it was OK *if* things were not going as spectacularly as expected (knowing full well they are not) and assured him as well that it's ok not to feel totally settled two weeks in.  I suggested that he speak to his RA and also consider a visit to the campus counseling center. To me, experiencing a panic attack is a pretty big deal.

Beyond that, I don't know what to do and feel *very* sad. He's my eldest and so this is all new territory. Should I be doing more? Less? I'm divorced from his dad on very poor terms and my good friends are either childless or have younger children. I don't know who to talk to, or what to do. Probably nothing, right?[/quote]

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