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[quote=Anonymous]I get along fine with my in-laws; in fact, I'm their "easy" DIL because my SIL's wife is labeled the "difficult" one. However, my MIL is admittedly high-strung/restless/nosy and my FIL is constantly trying to "fix" things that are working just fine. (Like suggesting new ways for us to take out our trash, for example...when there are no problems on this or any other front!) I am glad they visit and am glad they spend time with my toddler, but SHORT visits work because the whole dynamic is stressful for both my husband and for me.

This Christmas, we must host even though I'm going to be DAYS away from giving birth because I can't travel. We're having my husbands parents, 20-year old cousin and 60-year-old aunt stay with us for three days. The cousin and aunt are absolutely fine and I have no concerns about their visits. With my in-laws, it's going to be trying, but I can do a short visit...even though I'll be really physically uncomfortable/tired.

Here's the catch: My c-section is scheduled for December 31. My parents won't be visiting until mid-January. My husband's parents *insist* on being around for the birth. (Even though my local aunt AND My local cousin--who live just moments from us--are more than happy to watch my toddler and take her to and from the hospital to visit every day.)

Is it wrong for me to want them to depart on Dec. 26, drive 3.5 hours back to their home, and come back again on the morning of the 31st? I truly, honestly don't think I can handle having them stay from the 23rd through an indefinite period of time after I come home from the hospital. I'll just be too stressed out, mentally and physically, and I may snap! I haven't brought up my plans yet, and want to see if other people think it's reasonable to ask them to depart after Christmas and return on NYE. (After all, they insist on being here for the birth even though it truly isn't that "helpful" for them to do so as other local family are on board to help us with our toddler at that time.)

I want them to visit both for Christmas and to see the new baby, just not ALL the time ALL at once![/quote]

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