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[quote=Anonymous]holy shit. ok sorry this may be a bit confused, still in shock...so this morning i took DS11 to go pick up DD8 from sleepover, then go return some clothes, finish shopping for school, etc. I asked DD14 if she wanted to come, she said no, son and i left. i realized i'd forgotten the pants my younger daughter needed returned, so I went back home, left DS in the car, ran into the house, called DD's name, no answer. knocked on the door of the room my daughters share, no answer, so I went in. my sweet, beautiful, smart, funny girl was sitting on her bed (with noise canceling headphones in) on a dark blue towel that's been missing for months, cutting herself. i saw she had scars on her upper shoulders, belly, breasts, upper thighs...basically all the places covered by her bathing suit (she is very fair and wears a rash guard whenever she swims, and her suit was skirted w/ shorts this year--I didn't think anything of it, was just glad she wasn't opting for something super skimpy we'd have to discuss).

i'm not proud of how i reacted--i started screaming and she noticed me and then she started screaming. i started crying and told her to stop, stop, stop, and took the razor blade from her and looked her over really quick to see if any of the cuts were really deep, which thank god they were not. by then we were late to pick up DD8, so i told DD14 that i was so sorry she was in so much pain and that we were going to figure this out but we had to go get her sister and she had to come with us. she went into the bathroom--i made her leave the door open--and cleaned herself up and put on a shirt. obviously the whole errand running thing was horrible. i made her stay close to me the whole time, and my other kids must have sensed something was up, they were way snappier than usual. after shopping i took all three to lunch and then dropped DS and DD8 off at the playground 2 blocks from our house with some cash for the ice cream truck and their books and told them they could play for awhile. i took DD14 home with me and tried to get her to talk but she was basically clamming up. she was alternately crying and mad. she won't tell me how long it's been going on, what's causing it other than "it helps me feel calmer..." nothing.

DH is out of town this week but of course I called him and he's also horrified. but we aren't really sure what to do. obviously we need to find her therapy right away, but how do we know who is good? (we are in Takoma Park area). do i tell her school? how do I help her? for now I am telling her she cannot be in her room with the door closed and when she wanted to take a shower I insisted on sitting in the bathroom--we have a frosted glass shower door so she had some privacy--but obviously that isn't sustainable.

Please help. Suggestions, ideas, thoughts, anything![/quote]

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