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[quote=Anonymous]I'm not trans, but a good friend is.

Honestly, it really depends on the person. When my friend was transitioning, they would have been really excited to hear someone say "You're doin it great!" particularly if that person was someone they admired. But I don't know that they would have appreciated if a person they'd only just met had come out and said something like that, without context.

If you and this lady find yourselves talking about appearance and/or transition, which may or may not happen, it would be in context to compliment her in the same way you would compliment another friend who made a dramatic change to his/her appearance. I recently got a major haircut, for example, and I've had a lot of people tell me sincerely that it looks really great and ask who my stylist is. If there is something in particular that you admire about this woman, you could phrase it that way.

I have found that a good rule of thumb would be to ask yourself if this is something that you would comment on with a cisgender person. If not, then it's probably best to leave it alone.[/quote]

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