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[quote=Anonymous]I need some help wording a response.

Back story: I dated a guy for 7 months, knew him for two years, back in college when I was a sophomore. It was a nice relationship but he got drafted - he proposed and I declined, for a few reasons, mostly I was too young, he wasn't the one and I really didn't see myself as an athlete's wife - I told him all this at the time. He was furious and threw a nasty ugly fit. I haven't given him a whole lot of thought since. Now its 22 years since we've dated and he has been contacting me about getting back together.

I am happily married, not at all interested and feel kind of embarrassed for him that he is having a moment in his life like this. A lot of messages about "you were the one that got away" and "I look at your life and imagine me in place of your husband" etc. He has asked for an affair, asked that I leave my DH, keeps bragging about his money and career and how much better he is than my DH. He keeps lamenting that if I am such a big baseball fan why didn't I want to marry him. He lays out the life I could have had. Tells me about the things he gave his ex wives, blames the fact that he has plural ex wives on the fact that I'm his soul mate. He described how my children would look now if he was their father. Sends me pictures from our hometown and places we could "be together". My DH has known about this from the beginning and thinks its funny and teases me about it, he did look a bit miffed about the father of my kids comments though.  :?

I know if I asked my DH to say something to him he would but I'm hoping not to escalate this. What can I say to this guy that I haven't already? I tell him I am happily married. I've tried to be kind, I've tried to be firm. Its getting to the edge of creepy.[/quote]

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