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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Boys get punished more thwn girls in K. They just have more trouble than most girls adjusting  to the behavior standards of K.

All three of my kids are in elementary and middle school. Whem they were in K, every time I visited the classroom for any reason (parent night, reading day, class party, etc) the stoplight/school bus/turtle behavior chart would have several boys on red, maybe one or two girls plus a half dozen boys on yellow, and most of the girls plus two or three of the boys on green.  This is in different states, different teachers and different experience levels of teachers. Whenever this topic has come up with other parents who have various aged kids, they all say the same thing about their boys kindergarten experiences.

By the end of the year most of the boys manage to make it to mostly yellow and green, but there are always a few that are perpetually on red. It is sad to see and not the right method in my opinion.[/quote]

This has been our experience too, and the experience of all our friends with K boys.  The systems vary, but the reality is always the same.  The boys are always in trouble in kindergarten.  My oldest son came home with a frown face sticky note on the fourth day of kindergarten.  DH and I admittedly probably overreacted in the beginning.  I would also check in with the teacher, but, for us, every time we were concerned that our son was a huge trouble maker and we had a serious problem on our hands, we'd check in with the teacher who would tell us that his behavior is normal, he his still learning and practicing boundaries for school, most of the boys are the same, etc. [You could of course ask yourself why "normal" behavior for a 5 year old boy is punishable, but that's another topic.]

He had a very strict, but warm, 1st grade teacher, and within the first 3 weeks of 1st grade, he was on task, and we've really never had a problem since then.  He'll be starting 3rd grade this fall.

Our youngest boy starts kindergarten this fall so we're gearing up to experience this all over again and hopefully handle it better ourselves as parents.[/quote]

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