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[quote=Anonymous]Don't do it. It is stressing you out. People get in their head something is "the right thing to do" and they agree to all sorts of things that cause crazy stress. It it kind to do it? Yes! Is it selfish not to? No. You have an illness. Even if you didn't, if it was too overwhelming you still would have a reason not to offer.

It took me years to realize I need to do what I can handle and for each of us this is different. Yes, we need to do things for others, but we can decide what kind acts we want to do. There should be no guilt for saying no to what you cannot handle.

For example, some on here hate always being the host of playdates. I love it! One mom apologized to me and explained why she never has our child over (stuff going on at home). I told her there was no need to apologize. I enjoy hosting and it makes me happy to see the play well together. I am happy to call a friend going through a hard time and visit or bring a meal.

On the other hand, I hate driving other people's kids all over. I will drive them home after a playdate, but that's it. I can tell my own kid to keep it down or stop kicking or whatever, but I hate having to discipline another child in my car. I hate with a passion being a bridesmaid. I don't want to waste money on an ugly dress and pay for wedding showers and do all the bullshit. Never made anyone do it for me. If it's not a very close and dear friend, I just said no.[/quote]

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