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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP again. Sorry I'm asking so many questions. I think I'm personally hitting a rock bottom with this issue, and it's so personal I don't have anyone to talk to about this. This isn't normal, right? I do understand that "normal" is what works for both parties....but shouldn't a healthy adult male have a greater sex drive? I've spent so much time trying to convince myself this situation is doable, I need to see things from different perspectives, appreciate what I have, etc. that I feel like my perspective is skewed. I am attractive, fit, carry more than my share of the load, am generally happy and accommodations. Always trying to figure out if there are ways I can change things for the better. Just feeling confused, I guess.[/quote]

It's not normal for a healthy male to not want sex.  Its also totally normal to feel rejected and resentful in your situation.  If you are sure he is't masturbating, then I would first start with the medical aspect, i.e. low testosterone.

I wish I had a magic solution for you, but I don't.  It is going to require a brutally honest conversation at some point where you are going to have to tell him what you need out of the physical side of the relationship.  In a perfect world, a spouse whose sex drive is that low would be open minded enough to allow you to get your needs filled outside of the marriage.  But in reality, it might be the price of admission.

Good luck.  If it helps, you have tons of company.  Mismatched libidos is among the most common marital problems and reason for infidelity and divorce.[/quote]

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