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[quote=Anonymous]I feel like I have to be the only person to have ever been in this situation.  My 30-something sister, in the past year or so, has been having a sort of crisis about her childhood and has been expressing a lot of anger at our parents, esp. our mom.  For a little while, she was talking with me about it.  Then at some point she got pissed at me, too.  This was my previous thread: http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/437375.page

I took the advice from that thread (and from my therapist) and back in the spring asked my sis not to include me on her angry messages to our parents.  Basically since that request (to which she never directly responded) she's been ignoring me, won't answer my phone calls or e-mails, ignored my requests to visit her (I was in her area a couple times), etc.  When I told her I would be in her area and would drop by if she did not object, she wrote me a one-sentence e-mail saying she didn't like me and didn't want a relationship with me.

Trying to be the bigger person, I have sent her e-mails basically saying, hey, I respect you want some space, and hey, if you want to work things out with me in therapy or something I'm open to that and you're always welcome at my place, etc.  But I'm super hurt by her cutting me off, particularly because I just had a baby a month ago and she didn't acknowledge my pregnancy or acknowledge the birth AT ALL.  I e-mailed her to tell her about both (they were short, matter-of-fact e-mails, not like requests for to throw me or attend a shower or anything like that).  She did not respond.

The only person she's speaking to is my dad.  Apparently I've now been lumped in with my mother on the shit list, although I really don't know why.  My dad doesn't know either.

Has ANYONE been in a situation like this???  For a long while, I was just concerned about her wellbeing and figured if she didn't want to talk to me while she worked out whatever emotional issues she has, so be it.  But having the birth of a child flat out ignored by an immediate family member is really hurtful.  I wonder if we'll ever be on speaking terms again or if, even if she wants to talk to me in the future, I'd really feel open to her given she the way she's treating me right now.[/quote]

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