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[quote=Anonymous]Last week I was diagnosed with breast cancer. I'm still waiting for test results to come back to tell me the stage and that will determine the treatment plan.

I haven't told anyone besides my husband and one friend.

My parents and brother/SIL were away on vacation when I found out and I didn't want to tell them when they were away. Plus, I have a VERY anxious mother who will no doubt make this all about her and what a trial it is for her to handle with all the worry she has. She will be posting all over Facebook about how she's not sleeping, having stomach issues (she does this all the time) to get people to ask her why. Ugh. So I'm dreading telling her and have decided that I won't tell until I have all the facts in hand (probably late next week).

On the flip side, I am also dreading telling my ILs because I really have no relationship with them. When they visit, they never ask me anything about myself at all. They barely speak to me. I ask them questions and get pretty much one word answers. Prior to their last visit, I had cut my hair short and had lost a whole clothing size since the last time I saw them. People at work, at my DC's school, etc. were all stopping me to comment on one or the other. ILs visit for a weekend and say nothing...lol. I am literally invisible when they come, so much so that my husband notices and comments on it to me. Add to this that my MIL is a huge hypochondriac and LOVES attention. So I know this will become a huge thing to her, despite the fact that she has made no effort with me. My SIL acts similarly. She's in her mid-40's, never married/no kids and lives with my ILs. She always visits when they do and every time she is in my kids face the whole time - acting like his mommy. I generally just ignore it because they don't visit that often. But I think I'm going to have to pull the plug on that behavior when I'm sick, it's going to be too hurtful and feel like I'm going to be replaced.

Anyway -I guess I'm just venting. I hate that the dread of telling everyone this news (and dealing with their reactions) is hanging over my head. I'm going to be angry about the pity - especially from the ILs because I feel it will be disingenuous. Just trying to navigate through uncharted waters here.

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