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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When your own health and well-being is being compromised (physically, emotionally, mentally).

There is nothing wrong with divorcing a mentally ill spouse. Maybe they have less control over their behavior, but the effects can be just as detrimental. [/quote]

Do you think it's a different threshold than for physical illness? For example, needing to push your spouse around in a wheelchair limits your life a lot. Same if they need help using the bathroom. [/quote]

It's different.  Someone in a wheelchair can't help but be in a wheelchair.  Presumably OP didn't marry their spouse when their mental illness existed or was unmedicated.  Which means if their spouse put in the effort to get the proper treatment they could likely return to a better state.  Now if op married someone who acts exactly as they do now, op is a bit more at fault but certainly Doesn't mean they have to stay [/quote]

You have a LOT of ignorance about mental illness.  It is no more a choice than being confined to a wheelchair.  And you seem to operate under the fantasy that if someone is in treatment for their mental illness, its symptoms disappear.  I've been in treatment for depression for 20 years and I'm still very, very depressed sometimes.  I am a model patient in many ways, compliant, self-aware, and very hardworking.  But we are still in the dark ages regarding mental health treatment and there are no cures or guaranteed effective medications or protocols.  There's no "at fault" when it comes to mental illness.

I'm very aware of the reality of many noncompliant patients with mental illness.  That's not "at fault", either - it's typically either a symptom of the illness or a very understandable reaction to resisting the very debilitating negative side effects of many treatments.  It is certainly understandable that a spouse might eventually choose to leave a person with mental illness who resisted any treatments, just as a spouse might choose to leave a person with a physical disability who refused to even try to help him or herself.  But the sick spouse is no more "at fault" for the sickness or disability whether it is physical or mental.[/quote]

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