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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Advice needed... this happened yesterday and I am still kind of in shock. Yesterday dh flipped out in the car when I joked about his driving habits. Started screaming at me, sped up, swerved violently in and out of lanes in fairly heavy traffic. Our 6-year-old ds was in the car. We were 6 hours away from home in another state. I was terrified. After he slowed down I apologized, made nice, kept it light and breezy the rest of the way home so I wouldn't set him off again. He has had flares of anger in the past and, yes, is controlling and puts me down. Many red flags I have been ignoring/denying.

The question is, what do I do now, as in right now? He has put the incident behind him, no apology or acknowledgment of the danger he put us in. I have had enough. Part of me feels like taking my ds and leaving now, but I feel like that will be like pouring gasoline on the fire. If i got out now, it would be the women's shelter/protective order route (I have nothing) and I think they would just laugh at me. I don't think I could even get a protective order - the incident happened in another state and there's no proof. Or I could start planning now to file for divorce - take time to squirrel away money, get a lawyer, make a plan. I can't stand being in the same room with this man, but let's face it, how can I throw our lives and my son's life into total upheaval when school is starting in 2 weeks? Good god. I am making myself sick just thinking about all this.

Any advice, commiseration, etc., appreciated. You can even tell me to snap out of it and get a life if you want. I'm in MoCo.[/quote]

I worked at a shelter straight out of college. We wouldn't have laughed at you. [/quote]

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