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[quote=Anonymous]My sister and her DH live on the West Coast.  They do not have children (by choice), but they are both teachers and have lots of experience around older kids (MS and HS age).  We usually only see each other max 3-4 days per year.

My issue is with how my sister interacts with my kids.  She doesn't really know them that well, but she jumps in to "correct" them ALL.THE.TIME.  Sometimes, I am standing right there, and she will start correcting my kids (four of them, ages 1, 4, 6, and 9).  "Nephew, no, no!  Don't go over there!" or "Niece, stop!  Wait for us to catch up!" or whatever.  Although I appreciate it when an adult jumps in when I am not right there and it is a serious offense or a safety matter, she really doesn't know my parenting style and tends to react to things that I would normally let go.

When I am there, I say something right away- "Thanks, I'll take over!" or "Oh, it's OK, they're allowed to do that."  But I am not always right there.  And to top it off, my 6 year old has Asperger's, which my sister does not know.  Frankly, I don't really want to have that conversation with her because there is SO MUCH about parenting that she doesn't get- but assumes she does b/c she is a teacher- that I can't handle discussing it with her.  Anyway, that means that his behavior frequently elicits comments from her (both to him and later to me, wanting to debrief about something my DS did / said).

I know she means well, and she thinks she is being helpful.  I've tried talking to her about trying to be the fun aunt and letting me be the parent, but it hasn't seemed to work.  Any tips?  
FWIW, so far the kids don't really seem bothered by it.  It just drives me nuts.
Thanks!
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