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[quote=Anonymous]Would love to know how others feel about this situation, and what if anything, I should say to DH.

We have been married for 6 years as of early August. Last year, for our 5th anniversary, DH decided to give me the diamond eternity band I have been wanting forever (I just have a plain band now). However, he didn't actually give it to me - he printed a picture of one and said he wants it to be perfect so we will talk to a jeweler and have one made. We spoke to a jeweler re: specifics and then decided to hold off until DH got his sizable bonus in February as it was the smarter thing to do. We both work really hard and make good money (although not talking about no longer needing to work kind of money). Well, February has come and gone, DH got the bonus and even bought himself a watch as a celebratory gift since he has been wanting one. But there has been zero mention of my band since then. I did bring it up once right before he got the actual money and he said he was on it and I didn't need to remind him a million times.

Well, last month DH asked me what I want for our anniversary this year, and I said the only thing I can think of is a night away from the kids for the 2 of us (my mom offered to come and stay). We decided that our mutual gift was going to be a trip that DH would plan. Now our anniversary has come and gone and first off, there was no mention of the band which annoyed me, and second, DH mentioned at our dinner that he is still working on the trip but due to our busy schedules it may not be for a few months. I can guarantee you that the only way this trip is happening is if I plan it myself.

On the one hand, I think he has good intentions but it really upsets and frustrates me that DH is giving me gifts that he is not following through with. Trip aside, I made it clear to him that I wanted something special for our 5th anniversary that I could have forever (ie jewelry). Now I have nothing at all, and kind of feel like if he didn't give me the band within a year of our anniversary it doesn't really count as the gift. And it hurts that he seemingly doesn't care enough to follow through - yes it is expensive but we have the money so I don't know what the issue is.

For what it's worth, he is a good husband and father (we have 2 kids) but has never been the most thoughtful or romantic kind of person. He is kind of aloof when it comes to gift giving and it generally stresses him out a ton. But still, that's not an excuse in my book.

How should I broach this with him, or do I just not bring it up?[/quote]

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