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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have had a friend for many years, and would like some advice on how and whether to continue our friendship.  We became friends through a mutual friend when we both lived in another city.  My friend is from an extremely privileged background.  While she has worked, it has never been a standard employer-employee relationship where there are expectations about performance, hours and set vacation time.  She had her own company that her family financed and worked directly for her family.  I, on the other hand, took out loans for school and have worked full time since I was 16 years old, dealing with difficult bosses and having to manage finances.  We both have families now, and my friend is a good person.  While we don't live in the same city now, she calls regularly, comes to visit, invites us to visit her, etc.  My struggle is that our conversations involve her endlessly telling me about her life, full of parties, vacations, nannies, playdates, and now working from home.  She does not acknowledge that her circumstances are unusual, but rather has a tone of “this is how” to do things.  When I call her on it (for example, noting that a nanny is too pricey for some or that working from home is not always an option), there is either an awkward conversation or silence.  Updates about my full-time working life with kids and a hectic schedule are brief and awkward.  I have a handful of friends that I’ve known for many years, and we are all very different, so I’d like some advice on this particular friend.[/quote]

I've found it difficult to maintain friendships with people when financial circumstances vary too dramatically between us. There just seems to be little common ground and we can't relate anymore. It happens.

One old friend married well (very well) and doesn't seem to grasp why I can't travel all over at the drop of a hat because we need to save for college, retirement, etc. Oh, and I have a job. Meanwhile she can charter a plane to fly their kid to summer camp rather than face that 5 hour drive. Heck, doesn't everyone do that?

Sorry OP. Some friendships don't last forever.[/quote]

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