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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you are too close to this situation to regard it unbiasedly.  Too close as both a manager and a sister.

I'm a manager too.  Occasionally I have asked people to apologize.  When I do I have good reason.  But that does not mean that every manager who has ever asked an employee to apologize has good reason.  Maybe her manager is a weenie who has been bullied by his employees and is taking the low road.  Maybe he's taking the path of least resistance.  Maybe he's stupid.  You don't know that just because you only ask for an apology when it's really necessary, that her boss is also an effective and good manager.  How could you?

And you are also too close as a sister here.  You basically picked a fight with her, and you run to DCUM to complain about how difficult she is.  I think you need to take a look at the dynamic where you can't even bring yourself to say "Wow, Larla, tough day at work.  That really sucks."  Because OP, it sounds like things with your sister are essentially totally toxic.  You don't have a kind word to offer her.[/quote]

Your sister was looking for support.  And you knew that because you say she's always like this.  You could have given an explanation of why you might ask a subordinate to apologize to a co-worker even where she was not in the wrong.  You could have agreed that it was unfair that your sister was expected to apologize, but advised her to do it anyway for reasons X, Y, and Z.  Those are both ways of giving advice in a supportive manner.  But it's clear that you don't really like your sister and aren't interested in being supportive.  Neither of you looks all that great in this situation.  You have a crappy dynamic, and that isn't totally your sister's fault.  [/quote]

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