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[quote=Anonymous]My sister infuriates me.  She calls me today to ask for advice about someone at work.  She is not a supervisor; I manage multiple people.  So she tells me a story about a disagreement with a coworker which resulted in her boss asking her to be the bigger person and apologize.  My sister feels she did nothing wrong.  As a manager, I'm trying to understand why her manager would ask her to apologize if she was in the right because it's pretty germane to the kind if advice I would offer.  So I start asking questions.  My sister works in healthcare and, annoyed by my questions, says "you don't know anything about healthcare, and you interrupted me, and you're not letting me explain and when you're been asked to give advice you need to listen first, blah blah blah.". So I basically said hey, if I'm so clueless about healthcare and don't listen and don't know how to give advice, why did you call me anyway?  And then she had the gall to hang up on me as if lecturing at me in a loud schoolmarm-ish tone was a good way to talk to someone from whom you are seeking advice.  I just couldn't stand her defensive and condescending tone and this is par for the course with her.  She doesn't want to be questioned because she doesn't really want advice, she wants to he right and to be validated.  Asking questions might lead her to have to to concede she is/was wrong which she would rather die than admit.  And I don't want to be lectured by her on how to give advice.

I should have known not to pick up the phone.  Interactions like this are why we are not close, never have been, and never will be.  She can take a normal conversation and turn it into an argument inside of a minute, and she's always been that way.  
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