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[quote=Anonymous]I'm not personally dealing with this but my close friend is going through something very similar.  Her mother died at the end of May after an approximately three year battle with cancer.  Her father announced two months to the day after she died that he was remarrying.  He's planning on getting married next month, which would be about four months after her death.  I should also mention that he had been talking to this other woman casually (nothing physical) since before her mother died, and even really before the cancer was terminal.

My friend asked for my advice and I told her to tell him how she felt -- that she understood his need for companionship but that it was too soon, and was disrespectful to her mother's memory and incredibly hurtful to her and her sister.  I told her to resist the urge to cut him out of her life completely because he is her father and she would regret it, but that she was entitled to her feelings and she shouldn't keep them bottled up inside.

No, your mom doesn't have to run her life around your emotions, but taking your feelings into consideration (within reason) is just the decent thing to do.  I think you can tell her how you feel.  But then be prepared to accept her decision, no matter how much it hurts.  [/quote]

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