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OP - Exactly my take in my response above. I can understand if your daughter and you/DH want "to be done" with the impact of ASD, but it is not something you can just sign off on.   To give her the illusion that college will be a "new start" without considering how her Autism must be managed is setting her up for at best a very difficult time.  If you and DH think that just giving into her idea that ASD is over is just setting yourselves up, too, for a very hard and expensive experience. [b]Also please give some consideration to the unsuspecting roommate, the impact of DD on her first weeks in college and all that her parents are putting out to get her there, too!! - if you know your DD may well be the roommate from hell to live with.[/b] You should at least have the decency to start DD out in a single room.

It sounds like DD may not really be ready to "buy-in to college.  And do remember that once you have a semester with a transcript it will be part of her educational and even employment record from here on out.   If this college setting could be a good match, why then not give her the added time to mature and be able to benefit??  There is no timetable on when you start college or finish.   [/b]As a middle ground, have you considered try to get an accept/decline for a year or even a semester on health care grounds which she does seem to have?  It would preserve her college acceptance, but maybe a Gap Year to do what your daughter needs to do as the next step in learning to function as independently as possible as an adult would then ensure a smoother transition to college.[b]  It sounds like she or the family as a whole might benefit from seeing a therapist to sort"the next step" out.  DD could not just continue as she chooses and remain at home, but at the same time DD may be being set up for a real dive by looking at college through  "rose colored glasses."

It appears from your very own post there are several important benchmarks that DD could benefit from accomplishing with some professional guidance including:

- Handling daily personal tasks herself
- Handling tasks at home as appropriate 
- Deciding on a part-time job and doing a solid performance there
- Deciding on if education was in the future and starting out slowly with a course or two at the community college

However, as you would see from other threads this might just be an experience that needs to be tried so at least do find out about the key dates on the school calendar:

#1 What are the dates of withdrawal with any money being reimbursed?

#2 Could you take out insurance on the dorm and tuition cost - we did do this years ago with our oldest, and it saved us a semester's worth of expenses prorated.

#3 What is the end date to drop a course?

#4 What is the end date to ask for an incomplete.

$5 Also, try and get her to sign a waiver so that at least health information can be exchanged with you if you feel DD is coming undone at at any point and needs immediate intervention.

Transition for many teens is difficult enough to college, but denying that your DD has added even possible issues to contend with is putting her and yourselves through unnecessary angst.[/quote]

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