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[quote=Anonymous]How often do you think about a past love?  This has been bothering me for awhile and I'm just wondering if my scenario is typical or not.  I think about a past love of mine frequently, not in a sexual way and not even in a longing to be with him sort of way, more like fond memories that make me smile or wondering how his life turned out.

I dated this man over ten years ago and only for a couple of years and I loved him very much but ultimately we broke up because he decided he did not want children and I did. He wasn't my first love or even the longest relationship that I'd had but I did take our breakup pretty hard at the time.  Actually, it was devastating to me.  We were facebook friends for a couple of years, but he unfriended me after I got married and I just let it be.

Fast forward to today, I'm married to an amazing and loving man who is a great father to my two beautiful kids.  Although life isn't always perfect, by all accounts, I am happy, we are a happy family.  I love my kids, my marriage is solid (and yes we have a great sex life) and hind sight being 20/20, I can even see now that my ex would not have made the best husband or father (worked too much, selfish etc.) so it's not even like I'm romanticizing his ghost and yet...I still think about him, still wonder about him, imagine seeing him randomly on the street, he shows up in my dreams.  I don't think about any of my other ex-boyfriends this way, but he clearly occupies space in my unconscious mind. I'm always taken aback by it when a memory or a thought rushes through and honestly, I feel guilty when I think about him, not because the content of the thought itself is one that should make me feel guilty but just because I have a wonderful husband who I love dearly by my side and I know it would hurt him if he knew I still thought about this other man as much as I do .  WTF is wrong with me?  [/quote]

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