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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes I would. I even admit that it would create some bad blood between us. But this obsession that all must be equal, that I don't get. My mom and her sister are engaged in a particularly vicious fight bc my grandpa had a big plot of land that he split and 47/53 bc of the way the historical property line was drawn or something. It seems really trivial to me. [/quote]

You're contradicting yourself all over the place. On the one hand you say you would respect it, but then you also say it would cause bad blood. The issue is that we assume parents love children equally, and will treat them essentially equally. If there is a reason to deviate from treating them equally, there should be a reason why (e.g., fairness due to circumstances). So, for instance, if parents have two children, one inherited a large estate from a deceased spouse and is set for life while the other has a couple of special needs children and is practically broke from paying for services, the parents might see it as fair to leave the bulk of their estate to the child with the greatest need, especially since it's through no fault of their own. If there's no compelling issue of fairness, though, when parents make an unequal distribution, it smacks of favoritism and that's hurtful. Your grandfather made the decision not just to divide the property unequally, but also to choose one of his daughters to whom to give the larger share. Without an understanding of why that makes sense to everyone, that hurts. [/quote]

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